Foreplay?

So I sent a copy of my last entry to the co-worker I had the conversation with. I had not heard from him so I thought maybe I scared him off. Finally, I heard from him this morning. Here was his response:

Hey--- I just got my computer back after they replaced the hard drive-- which crashed, instantly wiping out 100's if not 1000's of hours of work. After I finish typing this message, I'm going to slit my wrists. As to the blog posting (where is it on the web, by the way?), a lot of the things I said were meant to be incendiary. It's just so fun to piss you off. I apologize if my generalization about black parents offended you, although I reserve my right to my opinion. It's gotten to where any generalization about race is considered racist, even though there are OBVIOUS cultural differences between them. I don't understand what conclusion you're referring to when you say, "Unbeknownst to him, he set off a couple of red flags for me during the course of our conversation which brought me to that conclusion." That I felt I had you figured out? Not in the least... I was more or less showing off my psycho-analysis skills (showing off: another common male tendency). Mostly, though, I was trying to get a rise out of you. "A heated debate is foreplay"? Wow, that's sick. You know what's going on there, right? It's called "trauma bonding." Afraid of true intimacy, the two of you take advantage of disagreements as an opportunity to feel a stronger connection than usual, which elevates into sex. See? I can read you like a book. ;-p

Seriously, though, your last paragraph there seems to indicate that some things I said made you think I had a low or incorrect opinion of you. Well as to the low part, it's not true-- I think you're an interesting person, more so than 95% of the people who work here. And I respect your intelligence and your "Type A" personality--they should serve you well. I'm sure I have some inaccurate impressions, but our conversation wasn't really in a very serious vain, at least from my point of view.

%&$#@

P.S... I didn't explicitly say I thought you had a low self-esteem; I just said, "You're more attractive to others if you feel good about the way you look."

Of course this was posted with his permission. Not that I need his permission to post on my own blog. But you know there is that whole male ego thing. As long as he believes he has some sort of influence or power, he is content. But we all know the real score.

Joe (a.k.a. gay boyfriend) seems to think I am "smitten." Of course according to him, every (straight) male I speak to is the future Mr. Right and I am just too jaded to notice. So I tend to point out the obvious line guys give. So I am immediately turned off by the typical male behavior. I like unpredictability. I prefer compliments that are genuine & not forced. And I hate liars!

So because I tend to be obsessive, I ended up asking another co-worker about guys.

Carrie(19:46:18): Why is it that you (meaning guys in general) tend to get off on riling people (meaning me specifically) up?
Carrie(19:46:28): Is that like some sort of fore play or something?
%*&$(19:47:31): well depends on the guy I guess....I use that as flirting sometimes but not to the point of pissing people off. That would kinda defeat the purpose wouldnt it?
%*&$(19:48:28): but I cant speak for others...
Carrie(19:48:29): I guess then EVERY guy (gay or straight) is flirting with me cause I get harassed all the time!
%*&$(19:48:47): no its cause your so sweet on the phone...
%*&$(19:48:49): lol
Carrie(19:49:12): :-
%*&$(19:49:38): :-P
Carrie(19:50:15): I can't help it that guys tend to react to a nice voice, intelligent banter, and obvious taste. I mean I do not fall for every lame line thrown at me.
%*&$(19:52:59): HA!
%*&$(19:53:44): I think it is more that you are very direct and do not care who you tell how it REALLY is...you do tend to come across as rather.......
%*&$(19:53:56): Im thinking for the right word....
%*&$(19:54:02): FORCEFULL
%*&$(19:54:04): thats it....
%*&$(19:54:14): Im not saying its a bad thing...but you do.....
%*&$(19:54:57): Most rednecks how ever dont like forceful ladies...they like them weak and stupid....
%*&$(19:55:13): I hate to say it but they do....I dont....but there you go....
%*&$(19:55:27): and that is my opinion....that is all....
Carrie(19:55:35): so guys like forceful women....how come a woman in all leather and a whip just came to mind?
Carrie(19:55:57): some sort of "Mistress Carrie"
%*&$(19:55:59): I was referring to rednecks....
%*&$(19:56:17): well I tend to enjoy that but maybe that is too much info.....HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Carrie(19:56:39): FREAK

So what have I concluded? Guys are weird....I am not jaded, just protective.....and heated debates as foreplay is NOT sick! I have standards when it comes to the men I date. I like passionate people. And I most certainly believe that the men that work for the phone company are jacked up!!!!!